Heroes vs. Cowards - Intro to the Hero Handbook
"You're so lucky.”
He took a sip of beer, sat back in his chair and sighed.
We were sitting at a bar in downtown Missoula, Montana and I'd just finished telling him about my month-long trip overseas. I told him how I met up with a few of my blog readers for great dinners, worked a couple hours per day (and sometimes per week) from my laptop in cafés, and basically just toured around and did whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.
"I wish I could do stuff like that,” he said.
I smiled and didn't reply. I'd already tried to help him a few times over the past couple of years. And still... here we were.
Our talk drifted back to the usual safe topics: jobs, family, girlfriends.
We joked as we finished our drinks and paid our tab. Outside, we shook hands and parted ways.
On my drive home, I thought about our conversation. Mostly, I thought about one particular sentence: “You're so lucky.”
To me, luck is buying a scratch-off lottery ticket and winning ten bucks.
Spending every day doing what you're passionate about and living how you want? Not so much.
But I know why he thinks I'm lucky.
Like a lot of guys, he's still swallowing Supposed Tos: I'm supposed to go to college and get a good job; I'm supposed to get my weekends off; I'm supposed to...whatever.
I can't blame him for thinking that way. Hell, I used to think the same.
But then I was "lucky" enough to have a few things happen.
I didn't really give a shit about school, so I skipped college and started my own business. I didn't have any money, so I took out a bank loan to fly across the country to meet writers and fitness entrepreneurs I admired. I didn't know it was out of the ordinary, so I randomly emailed magazine editors and told them I wanted their jobs.
Never mind I'd never been published or didn't have a college degree; I just knew I wanted to write and help people. I felt like I had something to say.
Now here's the interesting thing: the more I planned what I wanted my life to be like – and the more I executed that plan ― the luckier I became.
I got a job at a local gym and learned how to train people to get in better shape. That transitioned to opening my own studio where I worked with regular guys and girls and the occasional professional athlete or celebrity.
I started writing on my blog, then for magazines, and then sold my first book to Penguin publishing.
Fast-forward to today: I make enough money to live comfortably, I have great mentors, good relationships with my family and friends, and I've made a career out of something I'm passionate about.
Thousands of people visit my blog every day to hear what I have to say.
In other words, life is good.
Over the past few years, I've met dozens of other people who are living the life of their dreams.
They're people who had an idea of what they wanted (or at least an idea of what they didn't want), and then set out to get it.
They aren't millionaires or trust-fund babies. They're just regular people with an uncommon way of looking at life.
Sure, most own small businesses. They make custom watchstraps, run finance blogs, build websites, teach people about sex, create life-changing workout programs, run successful small clothing companies, write bestselling books, and more.
Others work as employees for awesome companies. They manage gyms, oversee advertising and marketing, write columns for magazines and newspapers, and work in restaurants.
But it's not just what they do to earn money that sets them apart. It's how they live.
They get up when they decide to get up. They spend their days doing whatever they like. They make enough money to do the things they want. They help people. They have meaningful relationships. They have ambitious goals, but are happy with what they already have.
They're in control of their lives.
They're heroes.
Although it's tough to see them when looking into a crowd, there are a lot more heroes than people think. All you have to do is notice how they stand out.
A hero:
- Lives by a set of rules he's spent time thinking about.
- Builds his body ― his greatest asset ― to look good and withstand sickness and physical obstacles.
- Seeks fun and fulfillment. (Even better if it's at the same time.)
- Spends time doing things he wants to do.
- Kicks ass when it's time to work.
- Commands a room with his confidence.
- Knows what he needs.
- Knows how to make money, keep it, and use it to fix problems and have fun.
- Fosters real relationships with people that are important to him.
- Has a plan to make his life ― and the lives of others ― better than most people dream about.
A coward:
- Doesn't know why he does what he does.
- Treats his body like a shitty vehicle instead of something he's proud of.
- Seeks fun at all costs, even if it's at the expense of other people (or himself).
- Wastes time doing what other people expect him to do.
- Puts off work, procrastinates on Facebook, or makes excuses about how “he's tired.”
- Commands negative attention with his machismo.
- Has no idea what he needs but wants everything.
- Gets in debt, spends money frivolously, and calls Mom and Dad for extra cash.
- Has fake relationships with his buddies, girls, and is generally an asshole.
- Complains all the time.
Where Are All The Heroes?
It's like most of us are in a state developmental limbo between school and supposed responsibility. (If you aren’t careful this “limbo” can go on until you die.)
We've never taken the time to define what our values are, and all the old credibility indicators ― graduating college, settling into a career, getting married, raising a family ― have disappeared.
What's left is a gap most of us fill with apathy, bad booze, boredom, and shitty jobs.
Consider this:
- College is leaving us tens of thousands of dollars in debt and won't guarantee a job.
- Since 1970, the number of young adults moving back home has increased 50 percent. Nearly one in five twenty-somethings move back in with their parents at some point.
We don't know what we're working for. We don't know what to expect. We don't know what our lives should be like.
So we blame the economy, our parents, our shitty luck, or other people.
We should blame ourselves.
Don't have the body you want? Your fault.
Working a job you don't like? Your fault.
Shitty grades in school? Your fault.
Up to your eyeballs in debt? Your fault.
It's all your fault.
But this is actually great news.
Because it's your fault, you can take responsibility for it. And if you take responsibility for it, you can change it.
Even if we have other parts of our lives figured out, most of us are likely neglecting other vital areas.
Have a great body? How's your financial situation?
Making a ton of money? How are your relationships with your friends?
Life of the party? Are you truly happy or are you just putting off the “real world”?
The goal, mind you, isn't to become complete. That's impossible.
The goal is to seek experience, fulfillment, and fun. The goal is to feel good about ourselves and the lives we lead.
So let's start there.
It's time to take control of your life and do what you want to do.
It's time to make your own luck.
It's time to become your own hero.
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Coming Tuesday, February 15th: The Hero Handbook and The Hero Workout
Ever since I launched Built for Show two years ago I've wanted to write another book. So I'm incredibly proud to release The Hero Handbook and the Hero Workout next Tuesday. I know you guys will love them.
But hey, I want to give you something now. So let's do this: Answer this question and I'll randomly pick five people to win a limited-edition HERO shirt AND The Hero Workout.
What have you learned from me or this site that has helped you become your own hero?
Got a specific blog you enjoyed? Did you read Built for Show and get great results? Did I answer an email or Facebook chat and help you out? Whatever it is, let me know in the comments. (And if I haven't helped you yet, feel free to ask a question in the comments!)
Oh, and I have a BIG suprise next Tuesday. So make sure to check back then...
Comments for This Entry
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Right now I would say recommending the book 'The 4-Hour Body" or the great Chili Recipe you posted a while back HOWEVER, I'm hoping your new book and program will be the icing on the cake and put me over the top.
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Nate, you have a great blog. What you say is incredibly true. If I am not my own hero, it is my fault.
Like you say in Built for Show, some things thrown our way are out of our control. But those things aren't what define me. What defines me is what I do when those things happen.
I don't have bodybuilder genes? Train smarter. (Built for Show, anyone?)
Am I late to work because of traffic? Leave earlier.
Am I working a job that I hate? My fault.
I can't do one hundred push-ups? Get to work.
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I first picked up Built for Show in early 2010. I read an article by Nate that same year and liked that here was someone who was a little younger than me who was truly trying to better himself and the world. Someone who set lofty goals and achieved them. I admired that, so I decided to pick up the book because it sounded interesting and discussed one of the most important topics ever written outside of actually working out (looking good naked and hooking up with girls). I almost threw it away like I had so many other books when I saw that you would be doing biceps curls for only six weeks out of the year long program. Jesus! This guy obviously didn't know anything.
The thing was I was stuck in a rut both physically and mentally for well over five years before reading the book. Physically I was a wirey 168lbs on a 6'2'' frame and after reading all those books by Mike Mentzer and Ellington Darden on High Intensity Training I had no muscle to show for all my efforts. So I took a chance and decided that I would only do the programs in Built for Show for a year. Nothing else. I'm now on the Spring program and I now weigh 193lbs at a 32 inch waist (simply put, it was lean muscle I gained). His back to the basics program was exactly what I needed and not only gave me muscles but something else I had been searching for but couldn't quite find. CONFIDENCE!
WORKING OUT and lifting weights has had a carry over affect in other aspects of my life. I smile more and am generally more relaxed and more comfortable with who I am. Built for Show not only improved my body but also improved my relationships with others and even my fashion sense (I literally take the notes I took on the fashion chapter from Built for Show with me when I go shopping for clothes, sad I know).
Now where Built for Show ended the Nate Green Experience has begun. I come to the website daily and when I read the article titled Become Your Own Hero I remember thinking that it was an amazing concept and for the first time in a while I have become truly passionate and inspired to become my own hero. While I now realize that I don't have to rely on others to inspire me it doesn't change the fact that some kid from Montana does and continues to do so with each and every article he writes.Yo Jeremy! 25 pounds of muscle gained on Built for Show is no joke. Thanks for posting, man.
Nate
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To be proud to be a HUMBLECOCK
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Where do I start? First, I work at a bookstore and it was there that I first came across a book called "Built for Show". I've read a lot of fitness books but what separated this book from all the others was the simplicity and effectiveness. I especially liked how you handled the diet section with the outline format of a healthy diet instead of a strict regimen to follow. By the way, I've sold upwards of 50 plus copies since reading the book.
Secondly, I've read and took something from all for your blog post. But what has really stirred my soul are some of the pictures you've posted within the blog post. One in particular was from the "My Favorite Online Reads" post. I put that picture on my goal board because to me it symbolizes being your own hero.
Most importantly, Nate, you have shattered the story I have told myself for so long. I use to rationalize (rational-lies) that I was too young to have an impact. Your proof that age doesn't matter if your passionate about what you do.
I'm now on the track to make my dreams reality. All it took was a virtual swift kick in my false beliefs from Nate G. For that, I thank you. I'm truly grateful. Keep inspiring and leading by example.
"True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost." ~ Arthur AsheI really appreciate you helping to spread the word and help people out, Zach.
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Your articles are all great and informative, but the real beauty of everything you do is how inspiring it is. You make people believe they can do more and live a better life. I can't wait to read your new book. I'm sure it will be just as good as BFS was!
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Bought Built for Show and followed the "Summer" workout plan. Helped me follow a strict workout for the first time in my life and get in the best shape of my life.
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Your post on "the opposite of personal training" came at the most perfect time. I was about tearing my hair out 'helping' a friend who didn't understand how to herself and had also been training my Dad. I was just about to reply to both their emails when I got one from you. Thanks!
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Hey Nate this sight has taught me to reach for my dreams. I am only a kid in high school but hey, I have some big dreams. I wish to play college football and be one of the best in the nation at it. This sight has taught me to go out and achieve my dream. Protect it and work to achieve it. Also I learned that life is meant to be lived to the fullest. Treat each day as an adventure. I love reading your blog! Keep up the good work man
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My personal trainer at the gym drew my attention to your articles on t-nation since I compalined about being a "hard gainer". And since then I was hooked. Reading your book and your blog religioulsy. In fact, I gained 20 lbs of lean muscle last year which I never thought I could.
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The biggest impression you've made on me is the need to constantly learn and grow. Reading your blog you know you don't have all the answers. It's encouraging to see someone who is always learning, and sharing what they learn from others.
Great point! No one has all the answers; it's a matter of constantly learning. I'm just glad I can share my experience, you know?
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Hey, Nate!
This is some exciting news, to say the least! Glad to know you've been busy. ;)
I've learned a lot from you. What comes to mind, though, is a nice little thought you hit me with that's grown and set up shop within me: What we do from day to day isn't nearly as big of a deal as how what we do from day to day falls together to shape our lifestyle - that's the goal of our daily experiences - to foster a fulfilling life.
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I thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog. All your posts are interesting and informative, and I cant wait to read your upcoming book !
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Nate you gave me some advice in an email about accomplishing my goals with a "Do it for 2 weeks" strategy and how to adjust my diet. For the do it for 2 weeks strategy I chose to do atleast 10 minutes of face-off practice for lacrosse everyday. Had my first game today in months and guess who dominated on faceoffs? I became a hero on the field, and in my mind because I wasn't beating myself up, I was confident in my practice. There was another article, probably my favorite article. "Give and Take -3 Steps to Having More". That was a deeply moving piece and basically justified what I've been doing for most of my life. At times I thought, I'm always helping people out what if I get taken advantage of? But the article helped strengthen my beliefs and cleared the path for me to be a hero for myself for helping people and to others. To me a hero is someone who believes in himself, in his abilities, in his body, and most importantly helps people if they need it.
Excellent. I'm glad the tips helped. The "focus on one thing" method is actually something I use in the Hero Workout. Very effective, indeed.
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I have learned that the sky is the limit. Build for Show has help me with my person workouts and with my clients as well. Nate knows how to be his own hero, and I am in the process of learning as well.
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I've learnt that you have the chance to shape your own future and go beyond the norm. Only you know what activities make your life fulfilling. Your parents may think you should study law in college; your friends may all be thinking about atudying business. But if your passion lies in philosophy, why shouldn't you go for it?
I've learnt to go for my own passion and understand my inner desires - what is it that I really want from my life? Money can never buy happiness; happiness only comes with fulfilment.
You've taught me the value of minimalism. Why do I need 10 different pairs of jeans of varying shades of blue? Why do I need 9 different pairs of Converse shoes? Do I really need that hundred-dollar watch?
The fact is that too many goals, too many aims and too many posessions only lead to one thing - clutter. As Bruce Lee constantly reminded his students, one should strip away the unessential, not keep adding more and more. Wise words, indeed.
You've taught me the value of self-belief. If I don't belief in my goals and my ambitions, no one will. There is no such thing as fate; there only is self-shaped destiny. We should all embrace our limitations and work with our strengths, instead of only lamenting at how unlucky we are.
I've become more confident and I believe in myself. I love the way I am and I no longer hate myself. I used to suffer from a shaky confidence and went through many trials and tribulations - failures in sports, body dysmorphia and an eating disorder and constant dissatisfaction.
You taught me to love myself again and not worry about what others think - the only way to change the future is to work on myself. It's as much in the mind as it is in the body.
Thank you, Nate Green. You've helped me decide to chase my own dream and to always be focused.Wow. Thanks, man.
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I'd say we share similar backgrounds, Nate. I grew up a scrawny, apathetic kid in a household that preached education and monetary fulfillment above everything else. After graduating high school, I looked in the mirror and realized it was time for a lifestyle change. I stumbled onto your blog while browsing articles on tnation, and one of the most important things I've learned from the nategreenexperience is how powerful the mind really is. Essentially, all of your articles preach the fact that you, and you only(speaking in generalities), limit personal aspirations.
I started at 110 lbs at 5'11, and currently sit at 170. the power of the mind, and the tasks which it commands are truly remarkable. that is what I've taken from your blog posts. Thanks a lot, and keep up the great work!. -
I'd have to say your recommendation of 'The 4-hour Body' was pretty good. Even though there's a lot I don't agree with, it has taught me to think outside of the box, as well as the fact that certain goals are only impossible if we choose to make them so.
Through following your blog, I've also learnt how to enjoy some of the simple pleasures in life (ahem, pizza, wine, beer, etc), while still maintaining a great physique, and an overall healthy lifestyle. -
Where to start...
There are few people who have singularly influenced me as much as you have.
First answering my long rant 16 year old email. Then keeping in touch and updated. Giving me your book which kick started my training. Allowing me to be part of the "W4" program that's caused me to put on over 20lbs and more to come, once I get hands on your new book and the new program! You've mentored me, inspired me and opened up a world of opportunities. You've introduced me to T-Nation, Tim Ferriss, pylo-pushups and 'Holy crap I'm late' shakes.. I can 100% say that it's because of you that I've started living the life.
I also apologise for being out of touch recently(ages)! I've just emerged from finishing High School, and finally finishing our final exams over the last year. I've now got a year to myself, and hell am I going to do a lot.
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Nate,
I want to first take the time to say sorry for how long that this is going to be but the timing of this article and the way my life has basically developed to this day in particular is simply nothing short of a blessing to help me remember that things are going to be ok and to quit feeling sorry for myself.
Not too long ago I wrote on your blog about how I have already become my own hero and how I will be a hero this next coming year. Well to restate what has already been said (briefly) I bought your book at the beginning of the summer last year. Glanced over it a few times but never really sat down and just read the thing. Well by the time I had to start my coaching job up at Northern Michigan I realized that it presented me with an opportunity to stay in shape and do to myself what I demand from my athletes and that is keeping a healthy body. I went from 275, playing weight, to being 235 when I came home for Christmas. As far as training goes your book has helped me so much and just the other day I back squatted 425, perfect reps, two times. Mind you I haven’t back squatted in over 2 years!!!
You have also helped me in other ways such opening me up to this brand new life style of healthy living as far as resources in workouts for myself and others (read all three of Lou Schuler’s and Allwyn Cosgrove’s books now), nutrition in that I eat a hella lot better now that I have in my whole flippin life and I am starting to just be happier about the person in the mirror because that is what everyone else is seeing now.
Hell I have even started to venture into new career paths in that I am working at the community Rec. center now as a fitness instructor and will be taking my CSCS fairly soon to be a full time trainer and then who knows what. I read your blog today and it made me realize that so far what all I have done has been great but not enough. I am not the Hero I want to be. I don’t approach girls and ask for a number because I don’t have that much confidence yet. I am not sure what I want out of life and what it is that is fulfilling to me (maybe need to make my own set of rules), but ultimately I have been sitting around for the last month and a half bitching about how I hate how stagnant my life has gotten and how I hate living in my folks house till I realized I really haven’t made the FULL EFFORT to move out. But now I already changed that just by that much and it came from a great blog that came on the most needed of days. Thank you so much for what you have done for me without even knowing it, and I look forward to all your future work.
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Hi Nate,
I've learned from you to have fun AND make progress in what i like. I've also learned NOT to fulfill expectations of others but my own. Build goals, go after and reach them, set new ones.
To be honestly, you are definitely not the only one. I've sought many like-minded people and found them. It's awesome what IS possiple when action is taken. That's what i've done: Taking action and working on and for me. Change yourself and the whole world changes.
Oh, and the fun of cause ;-))) (repetition).
Greetinx from Bavaria,
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Enjoyed the post Nate.
Your site has motivated me to cook good meals more often. Really liked the chili reciepe.
It's been cool following your "4 hour work week" success. I read 4hrww then bought and read your book and the New Rules of Lifting shorty after. I could tell both were critical in getting you to where you are today. Now I just need to stop procrastinating and find my muse. -
Actually your "Team Cobra" Vid on youtube.
That Koala Stretch saved my hips (n'stuff) many times!;)
No, seriously i'd have to go with your chili recipe.Ha! I forgot about that video! For anyone who hasn't seen it, here ya go:
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Being from Denmark, and indulging in the way that we danes live - my eyes were opened when i first read your blog.
Taking control of my own life, through your advise, recipes, and your inspiring way of writing, i have finally taken action, THE action necessary for me to have a rich and fullfilling life, a body i can be satisfied with, and to show off!
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What have I learned from you or this site that has helped me become my own hero?
I've learned that you don't have to be a celebrity, business tycoon, political frontrunner, or professional badass in any area to truly make a difference in someone's life.
At the beginning of 2010, I started out as an overweight, depressed college dropout with little motivation in my life except the desire to begin changing my physical appearance. Enter Built For Show and suddenly my body began to change. But that wasn't the only effect that I noticed.
I began to feel more confident and proud of what I was becoming. I wasn't afraid to put myself out there into a crowd and take a few chances. I also discovered a desire to learn more about how the human body works and how to make it better, stronger, faster, etc....
Today, I'm 50 lbs. leaner. I'm a Certified Personal Trainer and using it to help my family and friends better understand how to live healthier, more active lives. I look forward to everyday that I wake up because I know I'm not letting my circumstances dictate my happiness. Am I living my dream lifestyle? Not yet. But I'm striving to get there everyday. And I want to thank you for that Nate.
You've help teach me that an ordinary person seeking to do extraordinary things can have a powerful impact upon those he comes in contact with. That, no matter how old you are, how much money you have, or how educated you are, you can still help inspire people to strive for something more. So, thank you again for that my friend.
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What have you learned from me or this site that has helped you become your own hero?
I found this site just yesterday, but I'm already impressed. I love the writing style, topics, mentality. When it comes to what I've learned from the site... I can't say that I've implemented anything yet, however, I feel more powerful after reading a few posts that mention getting out of your comfort zone, remaining calm in conversations etc. I'm going to the gym in a few minutes and we'll definitely talk to some people (not during the workout though). I really like all the hero talk here because it truly is a mindset of how I see a true valuable life. You do what you love to do, have a lot of valuable friends, take care of your body, spend time with your family, eat awesome food, learn and learn. What a great way to spend time.
Take care
RistoYo Risto! (That sounds particularly funny to me if I say it out loud.)
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Really excited for the Hero Handbook!
The most value I got out of your blog was from the "Organize like a badass" article (http://is.gd/vOAaSG), it's so simple that I never even thought of it. I always wondered how the hell other people get important work done, when I'm jumping from one task to the other without finishing anything. Since that article I plan my week ahead on a Sunday, just like you said. With a little planning on that particular day I finish almost all my goals and tasks for the week.
This method has helped me to learn programming, to be more disciplined with my food intake (plan meals ahead, don't skip meals, etc.) and spend more time with my family and friends. It's the little hacks in life, that make a great difference! :)
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You wrote an article once called something like 'what makes a man'. In it one of the things you said made a man was 'dance like nobody's watching'. At the time it made me lol, but I've since realised that it relates to lots of things that we do everyday that we can sometimes feel self conscious about. Woh, I got all serious there for a moment lol.
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I have to admit it, you've helped me a ton. From the personal training to random blogs about getting your head out of your ass and making life move where you want. I may not be exactly what I want to be, but your advice kinda put me on the path to becoming a Superhero. You push being Being Your Own Hero, but I don't want to stop there. My goal is to be a god damn Superhero! But you are an asset because Hero is the first step, right?
So how have you helped me the most? Probably by helping me put my head on a body it deserves. Before that, I had to really change what was in my head.
Step 1: Pull Head From Ass (Check),
Step 2: Build a Body to Better Fit that Better Head (80-90% Check, I'll get there one day),
Step 3: Become a Hero by Creating the Better Life to Fit (In Progress),
Step 4: Become a Superhero and Kick Ass Every Minute of Every Day {even while sleeping} (The Ultimate Goal, Obviously Still In Progress).
I've gained about 50 or 60 lbs (probably 80-90% lean muscle) since I first picked up Built For Show (and started peeking at the blog) and I'm damn proud of every ounce. So let's face it, even if you don't pick me for the free book, I'm still gonna go out, buy it, and read it. Fact of the matter is; You're a good dude. I appreciate all the work you put in here. Thanks Nate. -
Nate,
Well a few weeks back I wrote on your wall Nate and I posted this below
"I gotta thank you my man...all of your advice and information you've posted has helped me in all aspects of my life. My online training and in person PT business is going great, I'm pursuing my dreams, and life couldn't be better right now...I'm becoming my own hero....if you're ever in Phoenix, AZ I owe you a beer and a steak dinner."
It'd be hard to pinpoint one specific article or post, I've been a fan of your writing since 2008. But after posting this facebook post, you replied back thanking me which shows how you keep in touch with your readers, something not many authors do...and it's one of the reasons why I check your website so consistently. keep up the great work my man, I can't wait 'til the new book is released. -
First of all, I want to tell you that I will try it in english...man,that's what's all about:Trying...keep on track until your sucessfull!
I'm from Germany..so it's not my motherlanguage...I hope you can follow.
Yes,for me t's the same like all the other guys: My life took another direction.
Example: I quit the pro level of hockey five years ago...I was fed up,I did it for money,not for the game,neither for the heart.My coach was shitty so I ended my career...well you know what: since last summer, I worked my ass off in the gym...kissed my four kids good night,grabbed the BFS plan and threw those "damn" weights around!It's still a lot of fun...
Well,I'm back on the ice,love what I do,playing the game how it should be played,fast and physical...I'm in the shape of my life...incredible!!!
And when my teammates show up asking what the f+++ happend,I answer something like:
Nothing,I just won my heart back with split squats,deadlifts,squats,push presses...that alone was worth it.
And another one (even greater stuff):
My wife isn't (yet) in the shape of her life...she has born the four most wonderful kids in the world (of course they are...they are my daughters and my son :-) )...now SHE WANTS to work her ass off...(no,she wants to rebuilt her ass :-) )...so we bought all the weights she needs,built a cable station at home,read through The new rules of lifting for women and the body breakthrought (well I found this part of the universe on your pages...THANKS)...and here we are...I have to watch that she takes her rests....
To cut the storie short:
Man,it's true,everybody can be a hero....but sometimes,there are people who stand on top...give the insperation the rest of us needs...how great you gave us this possibility.
NATE,thanks a lot.
Greeting s from Germany from Frank, Romy, Leonie, Ronja, Anouk & Pippin
THANKS!Love it. I'm planning on going to Oktoberfest this year, too. :)
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I love the 4 hour body and can't wait for your Hero Handbook/Workout to come out. Definitely getting it \m/
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I like your style Nate. I too have been down the road you are traveling. Realizing the life we are lead to believe we want is nothing but BS. Driven by hyperconsumerism and the need for crap. I live by the philosophy of half bad-&%$ half monk. Save, don't spend like a moron, but kick butt in every facet of life, including finance, mind, body, and spirit.
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Although I've enjoyed all your blog posts, Built For Show was the first workout book I've ever bought, I bought it when it first came out and I still reference it occasionally. But more than the workouts, the things in there and on your blog that have helped most have been the food and nutrition advice. Not only does help me build my body better, but it just feels good to get in the kitchen and spend some time cooking your own high quality food with good ingredients. thanks Nate!
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Hey Nate,
Great blog, when you ask yourself those questions:
Do i love my job? Am i in great shape? etc. It takes courage to answer them honestly and work on the solutions. I will pass this on to my friends and clients and remind them to start livng before its too late!
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Great Read peoplw need to fire it up and take responsibility instead of lookin for excuses YESSSSSSSSSS
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Hey Nate,
I dont' have a specific example of how you've helped me out, but just in general. You've totally inspired me to live life on my own terms and always stive to get better.
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Biggest lesson: Take some fucking action, i.e. you're responsible for everything that does and doesn't happen in your life.
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Nut up or shut up
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The Humblecock article has me working towards starting up my own t-shirt business.
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Hey Nate,
I have been a follower for a few years and continue to learn from you everyday. I re read the 5 ways to become your own hero on a regular basis. The simpicity yet intelligently put helps keep me grounded when I feel if I am getting off track. I don't really have a specific post but I have always enjoyed finding out what books you have been reading. You helped turn me to Gary Vaynerchuck and his book Crush It.
Between that and the quality you put out I have left the comfort of the corporate gym I had been comfortable in to pursue my own dreams of writing and working on my own terms. While doing all his my dad was diagnosed with cancer which caused me to drop everything to take care of him. Thus putting a haitus on these things but now he is doing much better and through his first round of chemo, I have learned how valuable life is. Learning that taking risks going after what I want is within my grasp as long as I am willing to go after it, straight through until I get it.
Your book Built for Show has not only helped me physically and mentally, but I have also been able to pass it on to high school kids, and basically anyone who wanted a quality workout plan. The feedback I had received on it has been outstanding. Not just the workout but help build confidence to do the things they have always wanted. I wanted to share that with you.
Keep up the amazing work and I look forward to buying your new book and passing it on to anyone who could use a helping hand like I did/do.
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Nate,
This is your best post ever and it shows through that THIS is what your passionate about. I enjoy your training/nutrition stuff but this is where I think what you love comes throught. Can't wait for the book and best of luck as always. If you're ever in NJ, stop in for a workout. -
Well Nate, you humble cock, every time I read your blog and hear about all of the amazing things you do I tell myself two things:
1. This kid has guts, a healthy assertiveness, and creativity.
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I have found a lot of inspiration for my workouts by reading your stuff. Too many to mention. Instead I would say that what I feel is more important is that you always emphasize that everything is in our own hands. We decide for ourselves, that everything is in our own hands. If your'e doing something you don't like, stop doing it. Always remembering this, is very important to me now, and you made me realize this.
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Hi Nate,
It's my first comment in your blog.
every time when I read your blog I understand some things:
1. Life is cool !
2. I make my life by myself
3. I like everybody around me
Alex, RussiaLife is cool.
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Nate Green for Mayor
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Best way I became my own hero through your work: planning my weeks / days via 3 whiteboards. So damn solid.
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I am ashamed of myself. I am 44 years old and I am miserable with myself, working in a job and industry I hate versus doing what I am Passionate about. Quite frankly I am almost to the point of being passionless, devoid of any Passion. Then I see a young man like you who really has it together and has life figured out. Reading through your list of hero attributes as well as those of a coward I suddenly has an epiphany, its not too late! I can get the fuck out of this industry, and pursue something a Hell of a lot more enjoyable. All the time I've already wastes is time I'll never get back, its time list forever.....but I am still young enough (and fit!) to pursue my passions in life.
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The thing I am really trying to embrace is the difficulty in stepping out of the "ordinary" life and living it the way I want. The temptations to become a fat, overworked and unhealthy person are everywhere. It takes a real hero to fight all that.
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Hey Nate, great stuff!
I love the 'be your own hero' theme. As simple as it is often it's just the motivational phrase I need to get my ass in gear and stop wasting time procrastinating. I have showed a few of my clients the 'your fault' section and however blunt it is at times, it gets the point across which is exactly what people need to see and hear.
Thanks for the great motivational posts and altered perspective.
Keep doing what your doing it is without a doubt one blog post that I read up on every time!
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Life "hacking" strategies. Focus your energy on what's important! For some it's family, other's it's career, or crafting an athletic, powerful physique.
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With the help of built for show (which I recently finished and moved on to show and go,) and your blog, was able to not only transform my body, but my whole attitude for the better and I owe you a lot of credit. Thank-you
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Nate,
You are wise beyond your years. The most valuable lesson you have taught me is to take control of my life instead of life controlling me.
I used to react to everything that happened to me in my life. I was just a bystander. I was living my life with no passion and no idea what to do or how to change it. I've have a desk job (hate it) that I've been doing for the past 5-6 years.
I've always loved fitness/physical therapy and helping people. I've decided to take control of my life and last year I started going back to school. I'm 27 working fulltime, and almost going to school fulltime to finish all my pre-reqs for physical therapy school.
It's tough as hell. I have no absolutely no time. But I am happy. I still sometimes fall back into cowardly behaviors but I soon snap out of it. Thanks to you, I am pursuing my dreams!
Aaron -
Great post Nate! Definitely love the inspiring posts from you. I'm very excited about the handbook coming soon.
I would have to say that the best things I've learned range from living the lifestyle of "new rich" and having the body that I want.
I used to horde my money and never spend it on anything for years because I lived with my parents (was going to school less than a mile away and work with them). I kinda just ate whatever I wanted and played videos games until I went out for the night. I certainly didn't have the body I wanted or trying new experiences. Now, I definitely wouldn't say I was unhappy, but I wasn't living life to the fullest I am now.
Reading your blog and BFS, as well as finding 4HWW from you, I have started to enjoy life much more. I try new experiences that I would have always passed up before, I have better relationships with people and they actually matter. As for the body I want, having just graduated college less than a year ago, people who haven't seen me in a while are always shocked by how much I have changed.
So, my comment is really just a thanks for being part of the road map to where I am now and where I eventually want to me. I hope that I look back on myself each year and see added improvement.
Thanks,
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I suppose the best line I've heard from you that has made a world's difference in my life is something along the lines of "luck is opportunity meeting proper preparation." As for ho it's helped me become a hero? Can't say -- ain't a hero yet.
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Nate, I had read your posts and materials on Precision Nutrition before I found your blog. But the most inspiring thing you did for me was to have a lengthy interview on the phone with you for John Berardi. You know the story...I was a middle-aged, morbidly obese woman with no fitness background of any kind who underwent an amazing transformation with Precision Nutrition's Lean Eating Program.
Dr. Berardi asked me to be one of the first inductees into his PN Hall of Fame and, in honor of that, to have you write an extensive article about that (ongoing) transformation.
As nervous and extraordinarily humbled as I was about the idea, the time with you on the phone turned out to be an incredible delight. Personally, we could have talked for hours. I think, for you, it was a very different type of "fitness" interview to be doing with someone with my 'background', yet I've always chosen to have a positive outlook on every aspect of life. It just took many years, and the encouragement of the fitness community, to be able to implement my most distant hopes and dreams about being a "fit person".
Now, I devour your information and have a kinship with one of my daughters, who encouraged me along the way. She's an intense lifter and was "way impressed" when she heard you were to interview me(!)
You've got a style all your own, and a freshness and enthusiasm to your writing that I totally identify with. I look forward to meeting you in person somewhere along the way.
Thanks for everything, Nate!Thanks for stopping by, Patricia! For those who want to check out Patricia's amazing transformation, go read this article:
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"Built for Show's" routines are what have helped me the most. I love the basic, seasonal approach: a lot of people think they need to hit *every* body part with multiple exercises, and it's just not the case. Several friends observing my body transformation have asked me to make routines for them, and I have gladly done so: they are always blown away and say, "This is all I need to do?" Right now they are all getting happier and healthier as they go: I'm hoping after making one or two routines they'll be able to go and figure it out completely for themselves, as that is the goal.
Also, the fact that you are living the life you want to at your age pushes me to want to do the same. I have made strides in that area, but the overall goal is have a continuous stream of income and free time that would make regular world travel possible. It isn't going to be easy, but I need to get to work on making it happen. -
I've learned from you that you really can do whatever you want, you just have to work for it. A lot of the points you bring up in your blog entries, I am already familiar with, but they help to remind me that I am doing the right thing and reinforce these ideas to me when so many people around me do not try to live their live to the fullest like you and I.
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Hey Nate,
One of my favorite things I learned from your website that helped me become my own hero was to identify a warp-speed moment and use my courage to proceed. I was so confused beforehand, but your post really help put things in perspective. Eight months later, I've never loved my life so much or been so proud of where I am and how far I've progressed.
As for your book, I really like how you destroy the old ways of thinking and that KFC-syndrome stuff.
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Follow your dreams.
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Fairly new to your blog. I like what you have to say and your attitude regarding life in general.
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Nate,
Thanks for putting things in prospective. Im currently the opposite of my own hero, NEED TO CHANGE
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I've learned to live for the moment by doing what I really love.
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Sincerity, Nate. I learned sincerity from you when I watched that video on YouTube you posted some time ago regarding your networking strategy using books; I believe you had egonomics in your hand at that point.
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Great post Nate!
You motivate others including myself to live life on our own terms. I think the biggest hang up your readers probably have is they don't need to copy YOUR life to become THEIR own superhero.
Being a married man with a 2 year old daughter you inspired me to quite my regular job, move my family across the country, buy our dream house, follow my passion and start a business in the fitness industry helping others get fit.
I don't care if someone is younger or not in the same position in life as me I am also open to listening, living and learning from others so I can keep paying it forward...
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Awesome post Nate! Can't wait to read the new book. I follow a lot of people's blogs and am working to create my own successful blog. I think you've inspired me partly because when I stumbled onto your blog I said "Hey, here's a young guy who's already doing something similar to what I want to be doing."
I like what you're about and how you are reaching out to help others by sharing what you have learned. When so many other guys your age are clueless and just out to party and fuck off (like I got caught up in myself), you sir stand above the pack. I wish you the best and continued success with your new book. -
"From zero to hero"
This particular adage may be a bit extreme to use in my situation, but I have certainly made leaps and bounds in the direction on the latter. After google fitness blog's and finding Nate's in a top 10 list nearly a year ago, it's become one of my "top sites" that I delved into the archives of and check back for new posts religiously.
I decided to take things into my own hands and reach out to some of the people that Nate may or may not have touched himself, and I started my very own Health and Fitness blog titled, The Pursuit of Fitness. After messaging Nate and incorporating some of his advice, I've seen myself, along with the blog, mature faster than an kid going through puberty!
It's no where near parallel to the success Nate has reached with The Nate Green Experience, but with over 500 "fans" on facebook and numerous thank you messages from some of the followers, it's proven to be a fantastic experiment thus far.
I'm a firm believer in practicing what you preach, so I've been building my body into a machine. Training hard, eating well, sleeping right, etc. All these additions have led to the happiest and most fulfilling years of my life. I'm now competing (and winning) CrossFit competitions, studying Exercise Physiology at UM, and maybe not quite livin' the dream to Nate's standards, but I'm sure as glad to respond, "fantastic!" every time someone throws a "how are you?" my way!
Thanks for everything thus far, and I look forward to continuing to incorporate your insights into my daily routine and watch myself grow into that "Hero", we all owe it to ourselves to become.
Noah -
Reading your book "built for show" helped me with myself self confidence. And i've ask you a few question on facebook and you always sent me a answer.............................. and for that i thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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The most beneficial thing I have learned from you is how to balance my time using several dry erase whiteboards. I personally feel that the new job I got(which just about doubled my salary) was directly impacted by the whiteboards lessons. I've been able to manage my time better and set goals.
The whiteboards proved so useful that when I moved in with my girlfriend two months ago, the first thing to go up was the white boards. We use them daily to keep track of things that need to get done and even she is realizing how much more she gets accomplished and how much more time in the day she has.Congrats on the new job!
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I want to tell you what I learned from you, but I think the more important thing is something you did for me. Something that changed the way I think about myself. Let me explain. Growing up I was the fat kid. Not the most picked on and somewhat athletic, but the fat kid non the less. Up until I read your last book.
It was my junior year in college and I was just getting fatter. I pretty much had given up. One day something in me just said it's time to fix this, problem was I had no clue what to do. I joined a gym but it was filled with fat people who seemed desperate and resultless. Which made me realize, people (Myself included) don't have a grip on the actual problems that cause us to become fat.
After picking up your book I basically lost 60lbs and at the same time added a great amount of muscle for my practically muscless body. I'm going to stop the story there, because you have actually already heard it. That's when the real help you gave me came in.
Back in your old blog format you had a section called "Guys I've Helped" section. I was in it. Jacob Huff from Lenexa, KS. When you first contaced me to be in it, I was estatic. The same guy who's articles, blog and book I read wanted to acknowledge my accomplishments to all his readers. Up until this point my new body got a lot of compliments and a few girls (Both great things) but these things can be somewhat empty and are temporary highs. Seeing my name on your site was a real confidence booster. Like I finally accomplished something that many others guys try to do but give up or fail on.
Later on you gave me some more great pointers through email which I appreciate as well. But having my name up on your site for everyone to see was the point where I felt capable of achieving whatever I set my mind on.
I guess the thing I learned from you is the things you do for others, intentional or not, are what's most important. A little help, encouragment, or acknowledgement can go a long way.
Now I have become the guy guy who people come to for advice. With this I also have the privalage of becoming the guy who's approval others seek as they transform, be it weight wise or in day to day life living.
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I've been in limbo for years, just cruising along and only being slightly productive with my time. A few months ago I discovered this site through your stuff on T-Nation and immediately thought "Yep, this guy is living the life I should have."
Your slogan is actually eerily similar to what mine has always been ("Be the hero of your own story"), only it seems that I had lost my way and wasn't living by my own words.. I'm back on track now. I'm writing again. I'm finally going for my personal training certification. I'm training harder than I ever have, and a large chunk of the credit goes to you, sir.
I started scheduling my weeks and days on dry erase boards so now it's pretty difficult NOT to get things done. Having a sense of purpose is a huge part of being a man, I believe.
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Well said Nate, well said.
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Hi Nate, when and where can I buy the new book in the UK? Amazon.co.uk don't have it showing for pre order yet.
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I've loved your blog ever since I came across it a couple years back. A lot of them have led to greater motivation to improve myself as a human being.
You answered an e-mail a while ago that really made me put my life into perspective.
You basically answered that you gave community college a shot, didn't like it, and you set out to make your own career.
I appreciate how you take time out of your day to answer people's questions and how you keep on helping.
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Per usual ... killer post.
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Through your blog I discovered T-nation and spend a huge amount of time gathering "real" information and letting go of the horrible information found in bodybuilding magazines.
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When I was 21 years old my doctor had told me that if I had continued on the path I was on. That I would die when I 30 years old. I just turned 30 years old a couple months back. There are still alot of impovements that I would like to make. Cant wait until your new book come out. THANK Nate for your blog.
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The most important thing I learned on this blog is how to become more independent in my whole life. I don't have to say YES to everybody and to accept every invitation or whatever. Since I learned to simply decline what the external world has to offer, it became clearly more simple and easy for me to work on my internal person, on what is truly making me happier, and what helps me achieve success in almost everything I do.
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Great article Nate!
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Hi Nate,
The biggest thing I've learned from you on this site is to nut up and take control of your life. Before I started coming on here I was often complaining that things weren't going my way, that I had no direction, and it was taking a big toll on both myself and my relationships. That being said, you've been a big inspiration for me - directly and indirectly.
I've actually taken a similar path to you in that I am pursuing writing. I'm in my final year of university and had no clue what I was doing with myself before this past summer when I discovered your site. I found myself really inspired and just went for it. I didn't know how you went about it (until recently) but we ended up taking similar paths regardless. I've spent the better part of 6 months contacting people I admire in the sports journalism world (what I'm doing) and got tons of response through persistence and hard work. Since then I've secured a highly competitive internship that does not generally take people for my school/program, starting doing freelancing on the side, and now everybody is asking me how I went about it.
Manning up made me my own hero and I'm grateful you got through to me.
BTW, The fact you enjoy microbrews as much as I do sealed the deal when I first logged on here. Dogfish head IPA seems to make the sun shine a little brighter.
CheersCongrats on the internship! Sounds like a great deal.
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I teach and coach with a friend of mine and both of us read built for show and loved what you had to say about life, lifting, girls and so forth. In season we are working about 14 hours a day six days a week and we used to skimp on the lifting a little bit and eating right worked when it was convient. Well recently, as we continue to follow your blog, we've adapted a new saying "What would Nate Green do?" And its worked for us. We will often text after a workout with WWNGD? and my two favorite responses thus far are: 'There's two feet of snow on the ground and I didn't want to workout, but then asked myself WWNGD, and he'd say 'F the snow' and I went and worked out. And the other "It was negative four degrees in my garage, didn't want to workout then I asked WWNGD and I kicked those weights' ass."
We both also read Tim Ferriss' book and combining Nate's and Tim's ideas, currently have a $100 bet (remember we're both teachers) in a competition for fat loss, bench press, pullups, dips, squat, dead lift and mile run. We tested today actually and are going to test once a month until the end of school in June to see who is the champ and who became their own hero.
Thanks Nate.Nice, Mitch. Let me know who wins the contest. :)
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I read BFS, the winter workout really helped me secure a place on my rugby team, its given me a whole new body and new confidence, and iv noticed a few girls staring my way, the awkwardly funny thing is that older women check me out more because they think im in my mid twenties when im still 19, but iv maintained who i was before iv got my new body, and iv tried to live by your blog on simplifing my life, getting rid of the excess clutter that clogs up life, i really enjoy the blogs, and will definatly buy your new book, may i recommend a book on one of my other my heros to you?
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Nate,
I'd say from your blog and book that I've learnt a few simple things and funnily enough it's always the simplest things that are the hardest to learn. Realising that no matter what hand your dealt in life you can always play a winner, even if it may take a little more work. Which in turn makes the result all the sweeter, my main experience in that is gaining weight, I've realised that I have to eat more in order to gain weight, regardless of the reason why I have to and by reading your blog I realised I had two choices. I could just keep eating the same amount I used to, stay the same weight and moan about it or I could make the effort, have breakfast, have a lunch and I can then get more food/fuel in me so I can look after my body and not look like a skeleton.
In essence I've learnt that good things aren't usually free or easy and if I want something I need to work to get it, reading law cases aren't fun but dammit if that's going to put me off what I want to do!
Looking forward to the new book, hopefully it'll have a version over in the uk or else I'm going to have to get one sent from America again. Keep up the good work Nate, your blog is great.
Bobby -
Nate, thanks for another great post. You've introduced me to a whole new way of thinking about life and how to use my body to interact with the rest of the world.
Looking forward to the book!
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Hi Nate,
You've helped in a lot of ways. Builot for show helpoed me to understand what a true program is. Before i was just throwing exercises together. After reading (and doing) the workouts in your book, I understood twhat a program shoulod look like. Oh and I forgot to mention that using your workouts I got stronger and leaner. I started the program at 235 lbs and finished it at 202 lbs.
I've learnerd alot about life from your blog as well. The biggest was confidence. I realized, when reflecting on some of your ideas that I have a lot to offer. I do not have to be sh yand hide inh the corner. I can go out there and be a people person and go for whatever I want. Becasue of this and your story, I decided to quit my job and pursue a career in the fitness industry. I learned to use the advice of others to make my business better. There is no need to reinvent the wheel, but maybe I can find a way to enhance the wheel.
Thanks, Nate, for your help and great ideas.
Bob -
Your recent post "The Opposite of Personal Training" told me several things that I needed to hear: that I need to stop investing emotionally when I try to help family or friends start training; that it would probably be more helpful for me to provide some resources and then back off; and that once they've got the information, the best move is to wait for them to come to me with any questions.
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The most important thing i have learnt is that i can do what i want and I'm allowed to be my own hero. I spent 5 days in prison and was looking at a max of 2 years for a crime i never committed but since them court case was thrown out i have a job now (which is a means to an end). I started planning my life by my rules and I'm loving the results thus far. Thank you for sharing and allowing me to see i can be my own hero and have a great life which is based on my own terms. I on longer worry about ptsd or what people say.
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Other than the awesome book you wrote, there are two pieces of advice you've given me that I keep coming back to. Both are sort of reframing the way I think about things. The first was to consider a goal a "promise to myself," because that way I would keep it. The other one was to say "I don't have life for that" instead of "I don't have time for that." It's funny how these really stupid-sounding things seep into your thinking and help you to make real changes. Thanks for that.
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Yo son,
I would say you helped me learn to just be myself and not be what others want you to be. Too often, friends who are going nowhere try to take you with them. They get scared when they see you pursuing your dreams and try to hold you back because they don't want to see one of "the crew" do well. "If we aren't doing anything, why should you?" seems to be their logic. Reading your blog and book inspired me to be confident in myself, to always try to improve and to do what I want in my life. Because of you, Tim Ferris and a few others I want to write a lifestye, nutrition, and fitness book one day. Thanks man..now send me some free shit! -
I'm the other teacher that is in the competition stated in an earlier post (Mitch's). Your book, blogs, and advice have been very helpful throughout the past couple of years. I am currently the head of a PE department at a large high school. We offer a weight training classes throughout the day and we have definitely incorporated many things that you have in your book/blogs. The information varies from the different lifts to posing critical thinking questions such as, "Is there a benefit to taking your protein shake before your workout?" I hope you don't mind me stealing some ideas from you.
My co-worker and I have been talking about your advice for quite sometime now. We have seen benefits not only in the weight room, but also in how we carry ourselves each day. We have a new way of thinking and approaching every day. It started as a joke, but has become more of a motivational tool having the mindset that even when you don't feel like working out.....WWNGD? Keep up the great and inspiring work. It's nice to actually pick up a book and not feel like you want to fall asleep with it in your hands...I had a hard time putting it down. Now that's a hero.....someone who can write something that interests me enough to actually read (I know, I'm a teacher and should be reading...quit judging) -
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Yo Nate,
Believe it or not, reading your blog posts, your emails, and your published matrial has helped me become a better writer. More specifically, I've had such a successful experience with my school newspaper that I've been able to move from a contributing writer to a section editor position (Flyer Newspaper at Salisbury University in Maryland).
In terms of becoming a hero through maintaining a badass body, autoregulatory training has definitely been a fundamental methodology that I follow. Your article with Christian Thibaudeau (http://www.t-nation.com/free_online_article/sports_body_training_performance/thibaudeau_talks_training) was what inspired this big interest of mine.
Finally, you've helped me become a more productive individual overall, which exemplifies one of the characteristics of a hero. Your blog post that covers "four ways on how to dominate the first hour" comes to mind as being one of the key influences here. After all, that first hour really gives us a good gauge as to how the rest of the day will go.
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I dropped out of college to dedicate more time to volunteer work. I was criticized by friends, family and peers. You have shown me that its not the piece of paper you get when you complete school that makes a person. Its passion and ambition and doing what makes you happy that gets you somewhere in life. You are a living example of that and have been an inspiration to me. Thank you Nate.
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Nate,
I'm my own hero, and constantly working to get better at it everyday. In everything you say, there's a piece of it that's going to inspire me or give me new ideas for ways to enjoy myself the way I want.
For being such a great example of someone living his passions, I want to thank you. While I know I'm alone being who I am, it's great to know I'm not alone living how I want.
I'll always have things to work on or which I could get better at. Having models such as yourself to look up to is a necessity, and a joy.
Keep on rocking it, man!
Mat -
Nate, reading your stuff motivates me to be the man I want to be and lead the life I want to live. I can't direct you to one single article or blog post, because frankly, I feel like they've all done something for me.
It feels good to know that I have access to your awesome insight when my head needs a shake; when I'm feeling negative, complacent, and/or overwhelmed.
Cheers Buddy -
Great blog post Nate! Taking responsibility for your own life and what happens to you is the best thing you can do. I know I've messed a bit in my life, but I've always had one thing that set me apart, I always took responsibility for my actions and only blamed myself. Whether it was making stupid choices with my money, dating the wrong type of girl, or failing a class in college. It's empowering to know you can change your future. I have 1, 5, 10, and 15 year goals for my life that I write down and do a lot of things according to how they will help me achieve them.
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btw, I forgot to answer this in my last blog post but, one of the best blogs that helped me out the most was "Stupid People Write Their Own Programs" for the longest time I was writing my own work out programs, And I would do what you would do, only put exercises that I personally enjoyed and cut out the ones that I didn't. My back and my chest got really strong, while my abs and legs were neglected. It was when I read that article that I decided, alright, I'm going to pick a work out and not change shit on it for at least 2 months. It's has been working pretty damn well for me so far, with your body women want work out.
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Congratulations on the second book release :)
Your blog has been great to help a person (me) not get compacent with your goals, or your life. Keep striving, keep enjoying and never be satisfied. Plus you helped once or twice in answering some of my questions around the time of your Europe trip, seeing as I was heading there only a month or so after you. Great gym tips for while I was over there by the way, Chelsea football club did have a good facility. -
Dear Nate,
One thing I've learned from you and your site? The belief that anything (and that's with italics) is possible and that shit happens. Shit happens when you don't get your way? You buckle up and go with it--best of all, gives you another chance to improve. This 'hero' concept, scratch that, IN US ALL is always there--ready to awaken and ready to kick ass. God knows we just need some help, not just from someone else, but mostly help from ourselves. That's what I learned. -
To keep striving for new goals and to keep out of my comfort zone. Last year I accomplished my fitness goals, quit smoking, quit drinking 3 liters of whiskey a week, took responsibility for my life and at the end of the year didn't know what to tackle next - I took your advice on buying few things but making them the best quality I can afford - it make it real easy to appreciate what I already have instead of looking at what everyone else thinks they want and consuming mindlessly. This year my wife and I are tackling finances and I'm starting to study philosophy and working on building better relationships with others.
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To step up to the plate and take what you want from life!
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What I learned from You, Nate, is that I have to pick my passion and walk with it throught life.
And what is most important lesson, that you can drink beer and be in great shape! Beer - it does a body good. -
I've learnt a lot from your blog and some of your recent posts have been outstanding. You've also answered my questions when I've emailed you.
But your best post in my opinion, and what I've learnt, comes from your blog "Are You Under The Influence" way back in 2008. It made me think about who I wanted to be and how I wanted to act. It made me want to inspire.
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To figure out what you want, then decide on a plan on how to get it. To not just do things you don't know why your'e doing
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One thing about being a hero, you'll get negative comments and you just have to ignore them or do what I do : laugh and watch them like a boomerang, go back whence they came.
I'll bet you could write a whole blog on all the people asking you things like "when are you going to get a real job", or "the field of personal training is so crowded, you're never going to make it", and why should people buy a book written by you, other negative comments.
Take it from me. I'm a Tiger. I can't tell you the number of times I get called pussy. They think that's more describing of my personality. So what, I just let it roll off my stripey back. That, and I just laugh as though it's funny, not serious. If you laugh at people's negative comments as if it's a comedic edict, it kind of knocks them off guard. It works for me.
I think you've done a great job with the website. Number one, is your spam filter. I was getting tired of all the e-mails from your site from people trying to sell junk. That's all gone now. Gr-r-r-eat job. -
Hi Nate,
You have helped me out through emailing me great advice and have inspired me to start my site. You are a true example that it CAN be done!
-Brad -
I just found you through someone else! I am happy as a clam!
What I like so far...you get to the point. I am signing up and will spend time reading your "back stuff".
Glad to have found you Nate!
-JeanGlad to have you here, Jean!
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I spent the summer volunteering in El Salvador and sent Nate an email asking some questions about how to handle my nutrition and training. He responded within a few hours and gave some great advice (which could definitely be used in a future blog post). He reminded me not to worry too much about it and instead, focus on what I was in El Salvador to do; namely to help people. He put it in perspective that three months would not ruin all of my progress and that, sometimes, training has to take a backseat to other more important things.
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I'm not much for writing long responses. But I have learned from you that getting what you want, and turning into your own personal hero, is a matter of respecting yourself. It takes a good while to build up the confidence within yourself to stand up, and swim upstream against the norm to get what you want out of life. You quickly become noticed by doing so, and by your actions along the way, you meet people, and if youre good at what you do, you change their lives, even if just a little bit. That moment right there, where they acknowledge you for helping them, or leading them in a new direction, is definable as a hero moment to me.
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Nate,
This website reinforces the beliefs that I try to live my life by-accountability. I don't generally need workout advice, and I think I live my life and work for what I want on my own terms. I always strive for growth because frankly it would be too depressing to just go day by day without going after something.
What the NGE represents to me is a place of like-minded individual both giving and taking. I come here for a good read, to relax, have a laugh, and remind myself that there are other heroes that keep climbing higher for themselves alone, when no one else is watching. Each tidbit I can pick up, or new angle or life evaluation exercise helps me stack the deck even further in my favor.
And like yourself, the true value of a hero is raising others to your level. I lead an endurance athletic team, mostly comprised of novice trainees and work to build up a lifestyle, not just a routine. Make the process something they own. Often I enlist many of your lifestyle evaluations or checklists to help them prioritize.
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What I have learned from following you on this site, was de-cluttering my mind and personal life of all the negative and wasteful things I had surrounded myself with. Reading what you write to people has made me focus on what is truly important to me, and refocused me on the values my parents have taught.. Striving to just keep living a healthy life both physically and mentally... THANKS NATE
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I started reading your blog pretty early when you had made it. You're the guy who inspired me to do what I REALLY want which is is to become a badass personal trainer. I thank you for that.
I know lots of people who probably hate their jobs but think that they can't do anything about it. That way I feel very lucky that I've finally found something that I really want to do and you've made me realize that I can definitely do it and perhaps make other people understand this too! It's as simple as setting goals, striving for them, ticking them off one by one and never giving up untill I reach them. It doesn't really matter even if it would take longer than I want. If I quit then I'll never get what I want. So far the beginning of my journey has been alot more fun and fascinating than wandering around aimlessly. -
Taking another piece of advice from you. My wife and I purchased Precision Nutrition last night to help with our nutrition. Hope its as good as you say and other say.
You'll love it, man.
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I'll try not to make this too long. I was walking through the bookstore one day stuck in a rut (both in life and working out) and seen "Built for Show", I glanced through it and decided to pick it up and give it a chance. I enjoyed reading the book as I found it both informative and entertaining. I began using the plan and started to see results started so as far as a fitness book goes, I got what I wanted. However, the fitness benefits I gained are minor compared to the other effects your book had on me. I started to re-examine my life and what it was I wanted to do with it. I was in university not doing anything specific and just wasting time. I was eating garbage food and blowing money I didn't have. I decided I needed to make a change and the biggest reason for this is the story you tell in your book about your first trip to the gym and having the weight come down on top of you without you being able to move it and the decision you had to make that day. Maybe I read too much into things but I related with this on not only a weight lifting level but a life level. You can rather accept failure and give up or realize you need to do better and work harder if you want results in any facet of life.This small story is by far my favorite thing you have ever wrote up to this point and the biggest reason I still read anything you write. So I kept taking your advice and picked up books by Johnny Bowden which completely changed my diet and helped to cut the garbage out and treat my body properly. I picked up Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss and began to implement his program into my life with a great deal of success on that level. These are books I never would have picked up unless you recommended them to me. Now in the present day I'm still in university except now I'm working towards my degree and studying in preparation for the LSAT later this year. I haven't ate fast food in over a year and my snacks are now pineapple, grapes and banana's instead of cookies and chips. I am by far in the best shape of my life. The kind of shape that my friends are constantly asking me for help and tips (The recent blog about writing plans for your friends could not be more true ps). Overall I am happier and healthier than I have ever been and will only continue these habits. So though you giving me a shirt and the workout would be great, you've already given me a lot and helped me realize that anything is possible if your willing to work for it. You taught me that if you want something in life bad enough you cannot sit back and wait for it to come to you, you need to go out there and take it. In the end life is what you make of it and thanks to you I have a feeling I'm making a pretty great one.
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I think you help people to realize whats inately in them. You've helped me to do that, sometimes we need that push of human spirit and we have trouble finding it, we realize alot but do nothing to remedy our situations, when you read that it really is your own choice and you are living proof it grants you power. I think thats what you do, you hand personal power back to all your readers who are looking to take it back but sometimes don't quite have the push or the esteem to take it. You're fairly straiight across the board on what to do to get what you want and become your own hero, today I became my own because of you.
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Hey Nate,
you definitely helped me in many ways. I'm picking up a lot of cool tips on your site and in your books and I really learn a lot from people like you.
I'm really looking forward to next tuesday and the Hero Handbook!
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Hey Nate,
I stumbled across your blog last year while searching for some fitness related tips. It is by far one of the best things that has happend to me in my young life. I have always been into working out and living a healthy lifestyle. I made the decision a year ago to pursue a career in health and fitness. I want to help others obtain reach thier potential much like you have helped me.
I wrote you an email a few months back asking for your advice on how to start my own blog. You gave me some incredible insight and guidance as to how to get started. As of today, I have started my own fitness blog and am already helping others live a healthier lifestyle. Thanks in large part to you I have become my own HERO and am ready to help others do the same.
I can never thank you enough for your inspiration to me and thousands of others trying to improve their lives. I look foward to continuing my quest to help others much like you have helped me.
Cheers,
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Thanks to everyone for commenting. You guys rock.
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Nate:
I'm brand new here, but was referred to your site by someone I really respect. After reading your Heroes vs. Cowards post, I'm convinced that I've allowed the daily 'grind' to suck most of the life out of me for sake of chasing the almighty dollar. Wouldn't say that I possess any of the Cowardly characteristics you've identified, but would strongly agree that I need to rekindle some of the Hero qualities that I once possessed, beyond working my ass off virtually 52 weeks a year with very little time for play.
That said, I'm looking forward getting my hands on a copy of your new book so I can figure out how to 'cut the crap' and get on with living a more fulfilling life!
Bring it on brutha!Thanks for checking out the blog, Arnold.
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I've read and loved Built for Show. For a guy with a pretty hectic work life (high school modern languages teacher) it helped me to cut the BS out of my workouts, focusing on what I need to achieve my goals. As a result I'm stronger, bigger, leaner and more confident. I look forward to hitting the gym after work. I'm trying to be as much of a "hero" to my fiancé as I can, and I think I'm getting there. I might not be there yet, but I'm working on it.
The blog post "Buckle down and stop bitching" really helped me. As far as my work goes, a lot of colleagues and I are in a touch spot thanks to various things (cuts in government funding for education is gonna cost people jobs), but I'm learning only to worry about what *I* can control. Cuts a lot of the stress out of things!
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Nate,
Every one of your posts that I read seems to relate to my life in at least some small way; but this one really hits home. When I read your posts about your Europe trip, I thought for an instant that you were lucky, but really it was just your plan-execute mentality.
I recently went through a break-up after a pretty intense year-long relationship. It sucked. To make matters worse, I'm currently in that limbo you wrote about and you are totally right. If you don't do something, you'll be stuck in that same rut until the day you die - whether you pay off your college debt and never finish or not. At the time I was drinking almost every night after work and not making any forward progress in any part of my life, which is more like regress.
Surprisingly, out of loneliness came solitude. Then I started getting things done - and not to make my parents proud, or my girlfriend happy, but for me. I still see the girl, but on my terms now, which is awesome. And to top things off, I'm taking care of things in my life one by one using the same mentality you have of planning how I want things to be and executing exactly according to my own envisioning.
In short, I believe that everyone internally posses what is needed to be a hero. Your site and your every post helps draw it out and empower people to BE that hero. Thanks for all your efforts.
Best regards,
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Nate,
I couldn't agree with your post more. I have built my life around the idea that, if I want something I have to go out and get it. I'm a partner in a 300 person martial arts school, I train in Japan 1-2 times a year, I have a wonderful wife that loves to travel so we spend time in Europe regularly (its were her family lives), I have a great relationship with My parents, who are also owners of a Gym (my dads version of retirement). I get to be a full time ninja everyday, what could be better than that? I'm looking forward to my vacation to Ireland this year. All of this has been made been made possible by a lot of hard work over that last 10 years and I'm now reaping the be rewards of that at only 28 years old. My wife and I are also proud to be 100% debt free. We have lived pretty modestly together for the first 4 years living together, but we are really happy at this point that we made those sacrifices. My grandfather always said "Pay your self 10% first" meaning save 10% of your income and "don't be a damn fool." meaning don't be a damn fool. I feel lucky i was raised by people i consider hero's. So i try to live in there image. I really enjoy you work and am very happy for you in the life you are building for your self. I'm inspired and motivated by your blog, its really nice to see all these posts from other like minded people. Keep up the good work. -
The best piece of advice you gave me was about my last break up.
I was struggling to move on, desperate to hold onto memories, not eating right, not doing anything and self destructing.
I emailed me after your breakup after you seemed to be doing so well and you gave me some awesome advice about how to look at the situation, value it and move on. Despite it being a hard road back, your advice really helped and I've been a major fan since then. Also bought Built for Show and facebook friends too - both I enjoy. -
Great post
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Hey Nate, I stumbled across your blog while doing research to begin my own. I have to honestly say it was a huge help. The two things I took away from reading your stuff was #1 "BE YOURSELF". It comes across as honest and sincere and just by that alone I have seen a huge difference in the response from my clients and friends. So thank you! # 2 JUST GET IT DONE! I would always talk and yap about the things I was gonna do but never put it to paper or in action. Seeing your site and the steps you've taken was definitely a kick in the ass for me. So by that once again thank you. Thats what I have taken from your site, I already knew that I can TRAIN my ass off and still enjoy a pint of Guinness with a smile. Thanks pal, keep up the great work.
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Hands down, the greatest thing that I have learned from this site is The No-Bullshit Notecard System, from your "17 Tips.." ebook. I used to be terribly unorganized with the things I had to do. I would put them off, then try to get alot of the stuff done at once, forget to do a couple of things, etc. Now every morning I just pick up the day's note card and get to work on it. It's a great feeling at the end of the day when you see all of your to-dos crossed out for the day. Thanks for that, Nate. A Hero's gotta be organized!
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Thank you Nate.
I respect your outlook on life. I've read your blogs, articles on Tnation and your book. I look forward to your book that is soon to be released (on my birthday). Sure would be nice to receive a birthday HERO tee (haha).
Keep on inspiring Nate.
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I totally agree with you, what stands between heroes and cowards is fear. Cowards are afraid of things don't go the way they want, while heroes just do it!
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Powerful stuff buddy.
I feel like this article was written for me. I'm currently in college studying something I like (psychology) and have a passion for but I feel like my passion for changing my body and trying to help others through fitness far outpaces my more traditional academic passion. I want to branch out and help people change their bodies and lives but don't want to end up as just another personal trainer. You managed to make this happen so any more tips you have for doing so would be greatly appreciated. You mention that you took out a loan to fly around and meet some of the industries top dogs. I followed you for your brief stint over at T-nation so I'm guessing you meet that whole crowd but who else did you meet and what did they have to say? -
Really great stuff, Nate. I am a fairly new reader to your blog but your posts have really resonated with me. I embraced this mentality about two years ago. I lost 90 lbs. of fat, I became an avid runner, I eat "real" food, I stuck to a budget, found a new job in an industry I have always wanted to work in and became just all around a much happier person. I love the Hero mentality you talked about here and I like the focus on both working hard and happiness. Too many bloggers focus too much on work without play.
Looking forward to reading more of your stuff!
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Nate,
You taught me life is about balance.
Don't put all your eggs into one basket.
Enjoy the little things.
Live simple.
That being your own HERO is possible if you really put your heart into it!
-Steve
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Sweet post Nate,
Your posts have helped me get my shit together, throw the crap out, and concentrate on what's most important.
It's great to hear your perspective on how cool life can be. The becoming your own hero message is an excellent one that makes life finally seem under our own control.
I'm about to graduate high school, go on to college, and all that jazz. The issue for me was that the only reason I had for doing so was the dreaded "because I have to". BULL. Although, there are many aspects of life that we can't control, I can choose where I want to go with my life.
I now do more activities because I "want" to do them rather than because I "have to".
The best blogs for me were: The Message, Do You Have the Life for That, and The Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
The Message was a very simple topic; one that really boils down life to what really matters.
Does what I'm doing make me happy, does it make me feel satisfied?
Yes and Yes
We’re all in this together; we might as well enjoy it.
Cheers, Nick -
Just wanted to let you guys know I'm gonna pick the winners for this and post 'em here in the comments on Monday!
Thanks to everyone for sharing.
And get ready for a big surprise on Tuesday!
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Nate,
I own a number of workout books and I never liked any of them. I always felt the author was more concerned with selling me a product then helping me in the gym. I picked up a copy of Built For Show over summer and read through it that night. It's the best book on fitness I own and helped my workouts tremendously. I can't wait to pick up a copy of your new book.
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The "What do Women Want" video has completely changed my training and is getting results. Legs, Shoulders, Back. That's it. I used to be 5'9 145 now I'm 170 and it's all legs shoulder and back. Squats, bench, Rows & OHP that's it. Thanks for doing the informal survey because it is what they want.
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For me Nate, your single greatest contribution has been that $17 chili recipe. It really opened up the whole world of cooking for me. I went from cooking 1-2 meals a week, mainly pasta or baked chicken breast, to making marinades and steak rubs several times a week. You're a great motivator and you're willingness to help everyone, is something more people should have. Keep up the good work.
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the biggest thing i've picked up from this site is the concept of becoming your own hero. it nicely wraps up several things i had bouncing around in my head into a unified whole. if you can build a badass body, master your money, make your own schedule, and get your shit together, everything else starts to fall into place.
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Thanks to everyone for the comments! I just went through and picked five random people to win a limited-edition HERO shirt, and the Hero Workout program (which is released tomorrow).
Here are the winners:
Jacob Huff
Greg R.
Anthony Young
David Peggs
Daniel Walsh
Check your email.
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A coward:
Doesn't know why he does what he does.
Treats his body like a shitty vehicle instead of something he's proud of.
Seeks fun at all costs, even if it's at the expense of other people (or himself).
Wastes time doing what other people expect him to do.
Puts off work, procrastinates on Facebook, or makes excuses about how “he's tired.”
Commands negative attention with his machismo.
Has no idea what he needs but wants everything.
Gets in debt, spends money frivolously, and calls Mom and Dad for extra cash.
Has fake relationships with his buddies, girls, and is generally an asshole.
Complains all the time.
That about sums me up.
I'm in huge amounts of debt because I spend like mad and buy things I don't need in order to look good or fit in.
I work a job I dislike because I feel like i'm not creative enough or business savvy enough to do something I love.
I'm 28 years old and live in a shitty share flat with a bunch of other people with no space or room to relax.
I'm single.
I'm skinny and drink too much and train too little.
I get temporarily inspired by blogs such as yours and then I forget about it all and revert back to my sad self.
I could go on but it's too depressing.
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What happens when a room is full of people who are trying to command with their confidence? Is there no place for humility? For putting someone else's needs and happiness above your own? Are these ideas only intended for current or aspiring business-persons? Doesn't the traditional concept of a hero involve some sort of self-sacrifice?
This honestly isn't a trolling attempt, though some will see it that way........it just seems that the perils of making your own success the center of your life should at least be voiced. Nothing but good will is intended.
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@BC Not sure if you saw the last bullet point about A HERO: "Has a plan to make his life ۥ and the lives of others ۥ better than most people dream about" I think that is pretty darn close to putting someone elses needs right there with your own. I see becoming a HERO as not only becoming a HERO in your own life whether its Busines, your current job, new job, working out or whatever it may be but taking that and and using it to help Make others HEROS in their life or whatever they are passionate about!
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BTW...how do you change so you change the Default "HERO" to a different pic?
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Great insight, Nate. As a fellow writer I can tell you that you are just born to do so. I studied English and writing in college and my professors always told me that I would get nothing from the program other than discipline. And there was nothing an MFA could bring me other than exposure.
Good for you for having the guts to live your dream. It's nice to reflect back on your life and know that you wouldn't change a thing. I am looking forward to downloading your book. Thanks for the great gift.
Kellie -
I cracked up laughing because I initially read:
"I didn't really give a shit about ALCOHOL, so I skipped college and started my own business."
hahaha. I had to go back and reread that.
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Dustin Mobley 4:57pm Feb 6, 2011